Equality does not equal equity

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Help me understand what feminism is, the simplest explanation I’ve found on the net is that it is the advocacy of women’s right on the ground of equality of sexes. Now this is where I get lost,many people scream for equality yet rebel against the blurring lines between women and men.Correct me if I’m wrong but I feel that most feminists constantly argue that women should have just as many rights as men,which is totally right,but don’t choose their battles wisely.

Let’s bring this point home from a fashion perspective, there’s alot of times when a woman would feel like wearing a cute dress to work but opt for a masculine suit over the dress because they don’t want to loose the authority that they have in the board room. This respect you are striving to earn is given because you are male like which makes your self proclaimed feminism null, pursuing man-like attitudes while fighting for women makes the lines of equality unsubstantial.The attitude should be banished and women should embrace themselves with all the facets of being female.

This doesn’t mean that I’m against women who feel like living ther lives in a more masculine way,no,if they feel so,they should. The only thing that matters is the reason behind your actions. Feminity is awesome but acting like a man to fight for women doesn’t get your point home. It’s true that the society respects men and that’s why you immitate them but why is it that men never want to act like a woman,the way we do them? Because we’ve not set our priorities right. We’ve made them ‘god’ and want to be like them instead of being the better version of ourselves.

I read a certain article by Emma Philo,editor at She is Rebel where she was saying that the society admires someone who proclaims her/his identity without endorsement by others or needing to impersonate others,that it’s true that society mocks people because it picks on a person’s lack of confidence in themselves for who they are. This is so true because with self esteem, the universe does not hear what you say but only what you mean.On a more serious level,as long as you identify with being a feminist, you should probably know that equality is a feeling,you should feel equal on the inside,love and be comfortable with yourself first. I believe I’m a feminist but I don’t take “what a man can do a woman can do” literally because maybe I can’t do everything that men do but I need the same respect because our differences don’t determine how worthy or unworthy we are of basic rights.
I have family members who have been put in a corner at their work places,it seems obviously easier to scapegoat the female colleagues in the team as the weakest performing. The problem gets worse when women reply to this by working harder implying that they accept the inferiority,instead of standing behind their hard work,they reward these people. Let me not even begin on how the playing field is not level because of all the responsibility and roles that women have in the society.

Anyway my point still remains,we should all be wise even with our battles. Make it clear which side we are fighting on to achieve the desired results.